Top 5 To-Do’s Before You Start Wedding Planning
Congratulations on your engagement!
You’re at such an amazing moment in your life now that you are in the wedding planning phase. The world looks different. It’s like you’ve finally reached the top of the mountain and now you are faced with an array of decisions on how to come down. The journey down is the life you are about to start with your person. The feeling is simply incredible.
We can only imagine how many texts and calls you are receiving right now. For some, it could be overwhelming and for others, it could make this time even more special. The number one question you’ll hear from here on out is… “So, when is the wedding?!”. You more than likely have no answer to this 🤣.
As exciting as this may all be, it can also be quite a bit to sort through. Sharing the news with family, figuring out the next steps with your fiance/fiancee, getting questions you don’t have the answers to, and having to make decisions on things you’ve only imagined. The good thing is that we are here to help. We have five things you should do before you get into the nitty-gritty of wedding planning.
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5 To-Do’s Before You Start Wedding Planning
1. Take A Beat
Before getting into the next steps, take a beat!
You’re engaged to the love of your life! Take a minute to bask in the feeling. Enjoy some quality time with your fiance/fiancee, journal your thoughts and emotions, and maybe even share your feeling with your therapist. The feeling you are feeling right now doesn’t happen often, and although we wish we could bottle it up and keep it forever, we can’t. So before getting your hands wet and your schedule packed with wedding planning, take as long as you need to enjoy the pure joy, love, and admiration you are feeling right now. Give yourself enough space to adjust to this new phase of life. You will have plenty of time to make decisions that will also come with many opinions. Give yourself a minute, you will be happy you did.
2. Get Your Ring Insured
It could take some getting used to walking around town with a rock on your finger. So we recommend you get it insured to make sure it is safe and covered… just in case. Many insurance policies cover theft, loss, and even damage. If you get the right policy it could even cover sizing fees.
Bottom line is, It’s special. Not because of how much the ring may cost, but what it represents. The ring is a symbol of love, commitment and the life the two of you are about to start together. No amount of money can buy that, but it would feel a lot better knowing that it’s protected.
3. Get On The Same Page
One of the things that can prepare you for an amazing wedding planning experience is getting on the same page with your partner. Before getting anyone else into the mix of what that day will be, look, and or feel like, it’s in the best interest of you two to talk about each person’s expectations leading up to the wedding and on the actual day of the wedding. Here are a few questions to ask each other:
- Do we want a big wedding or a small wedding?
- What kind of wedding do we want?
- Do we want a bridal party?
- How much are we willing to spend?
- How soon would we like our wedding?
- Do we have any priorities that need to be handled before the wedding?
Get as specific as possible. The sooner you know the answers to all of your questions, the easier it will be to make decisions. You got this!
4. Communicate With Your Families
This one can get tricky, sticky, and possibly difficult. Your families are excited, elated, and emotional about the news. To them, it is just as much their day as it is yours. They’ve been dreaming and praying for this day to come and it’s finally here. However, it is your wedding and you and your partner may desire a different way of doing things. This could be difficult to share with both families out of not wanting to disappoint.
Schedule a day to sit with your families and share your plan. If you are open to input this would be a great time to listen and discuss with your partner at a later time. Nonetheless, the day is yours and you deserve to have it your way.
5. Decide If You Want A Wedding Planner
Wedding planners are a great option for those who may have the budget, may not be event planning savvy, or for those who would just rather not have to plan their wedding. Here are a few things to consider when looking for a wedding planner:
- What is the average budget this wedding planner usually works with?
- Has this wedding planner planned a wedding of your type?
- Does the wedding planner have any guidelines and/or limitations that may contradict your vision?
If hiring a wedding planner isn’t something for you, you aren’t alone! Many couples plan their wedding and it goes just fine. Check out our Customizable Wedding Checklist in the Ahavaplan app to keep you and your partner organized. Here are some things to consider if you do decide to plan your wedding:
- Hire a day of wedding coordinator to ensure things run smoothly
- Start with the major decisions like date, guest list, and venue
- Try not to make any promises to family and friends, things change
Either way you decide to go, get excited! Things will get fun, and embracing all of it every step of the way is one decision you will be thankful for.
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